A Carers View

So, you think you know what’s it’s like to be a carer! Well first up, no two carers roles are alike and the public perception of those carers is one of young school children and pensioners, I for one am one of the silent minority IE: Male and middle aged, I came into the caring role some years ago, after my wife’s medical condition deteriorated. Her needs are complex and changeable and as a result my duties frequently change. Due to her pain level’s it is impossible to leave my wife for more than a few hours and respite care is not practical as we cannot guarantee when we would need the help. Male carers of a certain age have a large amount of guilt for various reasons including in my case the fact that I feel I should be providing for my family, that is of course impossible for many carers. This guilt may be in part due to many people although polite look down on men in the caring role who don’t “Work” so I have spent a great deal of time trying to find an outlet for my need to provide and vent my frustration. To that end I have embraced woodworking and I have been fortunate in receiving support from the Leonardo Trust right here in Dorset to which a carer can apply once a year for help towards a hobby or outlet which is unrelated to their caring role. Don’t misunderstand me it has taken 3yrs to obtain a basic woodworking kit but I seem to have developed a basic skill which I hope in due course will allow to me provide a income for my family.

Mark @dorsetdialect – HNT supporter